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“The Giver” and “The Inspirer”


I love personality tests.  Self-Awareness is never a bad thing if you want to grow and become a better version of yourself.  After taking a basic yes or no 72 questioned Briggs-Myers Yung online test I was labeled as an ENFJ (Extraverted Feeling with Introverted Intuition).  Reading this portrait of an ENFJ was eerie.  It is incredibly accurate as far as how I identify myself as “The Giver”.  Seeing the traits written in black and white makes the strengths and weaknesses of this personality speak a little louder and draws more awareness to the personality traits I should embrace, and the not-so-huggable traits.  I do not mean to ignore the strengths of the personality profile and in fact I enjoy reminding myself of these positive attributes, but in this post I am going to focus more on the personality profile weaknesses, how it coincides with my personality, and how it relates to my quest for healthy living.  If I recognize the hurdle, I can try to find a way to overcome this obstacle.

ESFJ strengths

  • Always look for win-win situations. ESFJ personalities value harmony and do their best to avoid conflict wherever possible. They are natural team players, trying to get along with everyone.
  • Very loyal. ESFJs value relationships and stability very highly and try hard to not disturb the status quo unless absolutely necessary. This makes them very loyal and trustworthy employees and partners.
  • Sensitive and warm. ESFJ personalities seek harmony and care deeply about other people’s feelings, being careful not to offend or hurt anybody.
  • Know how to connect to people. ESFJs are social and friendly individuals who have no difficulties with small talk or following other social rituals. People with this personality type also tend to have a strong need to belong, e.g. by playing an active role in the local community.
  • Take their duties very seriously. ESFJ personalities tend to be responsible and reliable, paying a lot of attention to their duties and responsibilities. They can be very hard workers, often putting their duties above their own needs.
  • Good with practical matters. People with the ESFJ personality type have excellent practical skills and do not mind dealing with routine, daily tasks. They will always make sure that people close to them are cared for.

ESFJ weaknesses

  • Often obsessed with their social status. ESFJs tend to have a very strong need to be seen as responsible, respected and successful individuals – they will do everything to increase their social status and influence.
  • May be inflexible. ESFJs place a lot of importance on traditions and may often worry too much about what other people see as acceptable. Consequently, they are likely to be very careful or even critical when it comes to unconventional methods or non-mainstream views.
  • Unwilling to improvise. People with the ESFJ personality type dislike venturing outside their comfort zone and taking bold steps, usually out of fear of being (or appearing) different.
  • Very vulnerable to criticism. ESFJs strongly dislike conflicts and criticism – they can get very defensive and hurt if someone (especially a person close to them) criticizes their habits, ideas or favorite traditions.
  • Often too selfless. ESFJ personalities may care and worry so much about others that their attention will become overwhelming and ultimately unwelcome. This is also likely to lead to their own needs being neglected.
  • May be needy. ESFJs need to know that they are liked and their efforts are valued. Consequently, people with this personality type may often fish for compliments or try to attract other people’s attention.

I think the most concerning weaknesses listed  regarding my journey to wellness is being too selfless and very vulnerable to criticism.  When you are trying to work on yourself, you cannot be selfless or read too much into criticism.  My needs, such as leading a healthy life and eating properly,  must come first.  If you give all you have, you have nothing left for yourself.  I am obviously not talking physical objects here.  It’s easy to lose yourself as an ENFJ personality!  I am determined to re-define myself and build on my confidence and inner strength.  I can also be very defensive, so if I am criticized harshly I will shut down emotionally and physically.  This is not something that will help me on my journey.

I also took a more detailed test and came out with a ENFP result labeled “The Inspirer”, but I identify more as an ENFJ, or “The Giver”.  The percentage difference between my P and J results from each test was 1-2% so it’s a close call between the two.  I think this gives me reasons behind my multiple personalities!

The difference between the P (perceiving) and J (judging) definition are as follows:

Judging (J)

Decisive, prefer clear rules and guidelines, eager to commit, see deadlines as sacred, seek closure

Perceiving (P)

Probing, prefer keeping their options open, reluctant to commit, relaxed about their work, seek freedom

I found this extremely interesting as far as my relationships both personally and professionally.  Commitment is something I enjoy, but it’s not something I come to lightly.  I like open options to a certain point, then it’s time to commit for good.  And once I commit, I commit wholeheartedly.  This also relates to my commitment to the gym!  Once I get there, I am good to go for hours.  But getting me there can take a lot of work.  Deadlines are a necessity in my life if I want to succeed in my professional life.  If I don’t have them, I am very very relaxed with my work, or “laid back to an extent” as I refer to myself as a supervisor.  Deadlines give me a needed sense of closure so I can move on and seek out the freedom I crave.  Furthermore, I am definitely not decisive and probing seems quite an extreme word.  I am curious, but not one to probe to the extent of annoyance.  I would say I’m a very good mix of both judging and perceiving, which is probably why the test put a very small percentage between the two in my personality result.

The above being said, I relate to many of the strengths and weaknesses of the ENFP personality type, or “The Inspirer”, as well.   I’ve made sure to note areas to embrace and work on from this information.

ENFP strengths

  • Observant. ENFP personalities believe that there are no irrelevant details or actions – they try to notice everything, seeing all events as part of a big mysterious puzzle called life.
  • Very popular and friendly. ENFPs are altruistic and cooperative, doing their best to be empathic and friendly in every situation. They can get along with nearly everyone and usually have a large circle of friends and acquaintances.
  • Energetic and enthusiastic. ENFPs are always eager to share their ideas with other people and get their opinions in return. Their enthusiasm is contagious and very inspiring at the same time.
  • Know how to relax. People with this personality type know how to switch off and have fun, simply experiencing life and everything it has to offer. Their wild bursts of enthusiastic energy can often surprise even their closest friends.
  • Excellent communicators. ENFPs tend to have great people skills and they instantly know how to present their ideas in a convincing way. They can handle both small talk and deep, meaningful conversations, although the ENFP’s definition of small talk may be somewhat unusual – they will steer the conversation towards ideas rather than weather, gossip etc.
  • Curious. ENFPs are very imaginative and open-minded. They enjoy trying out new things and do not hesitate to go outside their comfort zone if necessary.

ENFP weaknesses

  • Highly emotional. ENFP personalities tend to have very intense emotions, seeing them as an inseparable part of their identity. This may often cause the ENFP to react strongly to criticism, conflicts or tension.
  • May have poor practical skills. ENFPs are brilliant when it comes to solving problems, creating processes or initiating projects (especially if they involve other people) – however, they are likely to find it difficult to follow through and deal with the practical, administrative side of things.
  • Overthink things. ENFPs always look for hidden motives and tend to overthink even the simplest things, constantly asking themselves why someone did what they did and what that might mean.
  • Get stressed easily. ENFPs are very sensitive and care deeply about other people’s feelings – this can cause them a lot of stress sometimes as people often look toward them for guidance and encouragement, and the ENFP cannot always say “yes”.
  • Find it difficult to focus. People with the ENFP personality type lose interest quickly if their project shifts towards routine, administrative matters – they may not be able to stop their mind from wandering off.
  • Very independent. ENFPs loathe being micromanaged or restrained by rules and guidelines. They want to be seen as highly independent individuals, masters of their own fate.

Focus is something I struggle with on a daily basis, so on a very bad day I can see this being a weakness I need to keep in check during my wellness journey.  Again, being sensitive to criticism rears it’s ugly head so being that it is a part of both ENFJ and ENFP personality profiles only solidifies that I do NOT respond well to criticism as all!  I try to not be so sensitive, but I tend to lambaste myself instead of having the confidence to either agree or disagree with the opinion, and move on.   I also struggle with practicality often, so it’s no surprise I am torn between these two personalities (ENFJ being practical and ENFP with poor practical skills).  I sometimes wonder why my emotions or reactions are not practical, and there is always a struggle between my head and heart.  I think I’ve gotten better with these weaknesses, but only time and experience will tell!

In conclusion, I think I am constantly “The Giver”, and sometimes “The Inspirer” on any given  good or  bad day.  I am not a psychologist, I never studied Psychology, but personality tests are a fun interest of mine!  No one knows me better than myself, so i feel well prepared when taking these tests!

So, what is your Personality Profile???  Once you take either the short or long online questionnaire (or both!), find out what your results mean and let me know!  Do you identify with your results?  Why or why not?  Are you within a small margin of percentage with another personality like I am?  Do you see yourself in both roles?  What weaknesses do you find are relevant in your own personal journey to wellness?  What strengths can you use to help you along your journey?



About Pretty Patina Photography

I am passionate about vegetarianism, exercise and movement, yoga, cats, media, meditation, abandoned locations, and libraries.

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